How to choose a therapist

What the Gottman Method is

The Gottman Method is a structured way of working with couples that came out of decades of observational research by Drs John and Julie Gottman into how partners actually talk to each other. It pays close attention to the mechanics of a disagreement: how it starts, what each person does when it escalates, and whether the pair can find a way back afterwards. Sessions tend to be practical, and often include things to try between them.

It is a way of working, not a diagnosis, and it is not the only approach that helps with a relationship. Emotionally focused therapy, person-centered work and structured approaches such as CBT all cover similar ground by different routes. Most therapists combine several.

What the license line means

Every therapist here holds a license granted by a board in the state named on their profile. The letters tell you which training route they took: LCSW is a clinical social worker, LPC and LMHC are counselors, LMFT is a marriage and family therapist. None of them ranks above another, and the one that suits you depends on the work, not the letters.

A license is tied to a state. An online therapist can normally see people who are in a state they are licensed in, which is why the state is on every profile and why the directory is organized by it. Browse therapists by credential if you want to start there, or start with your state.

Checking a license and an NPI

Every profile prints the license number, the state and the expiry exactly as the therapist lists them, and almost every profile also prints an NPI, the national provider identifier used across US healthcare. We do not verify either. The state board that issued the license keeps a public register, and the national NPI registry is free to search, so both are yours to check in a couple of minutes. A number that does not come back is worth asking about.

Approaches you will see listed

These are the approaches most often named on this directory. Naming an approach is not evidence of training in it; ask directly how someone uses it.

• Gottman Method
• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
• Client-Centered Therapy
• Solution-Focused Therapy
• Mindfulness Therapy
• Motivational Interviewing

Structured approaches such as the Gottman Method, CBT and solution-focused work set clear goals and often suggest things to try between sessions. Person-centered and mindfulness-based work is more open and gives you room to think out loud. Psychodynamic and attachment-based work looks further back at patterns that keep repeating. Most therapists combine them, and the combination matters less than whether the person makes sense to you.

Common questions

What to compare on a profile

1. Your state. Start here, because it decides who can actually see you. Browse by state.
2. What they work with. Every profile lists it. If what you are carrying comes with something else, a bereavement, a separation, work that has become unbearable, look for someone who names that too. See everything therapists here work with.
3. How they work. Read the approaches, then read the biography, which tells you more. Does the way they describe their work sound like someone you could talk to?
4. The license and the NPI. Both are on every profile. Check them if it matters to you.
5. Experience. Years in practice is background, not a ranking. Newer therapists often have more room in the week.

What a first session is for

Nobody can tell in advance whether a therapist suits them. The first session is where you find out: whether you feel able to say how things really are, and whether the response makes you want to come back. Changing therapist after a session or two is normal and expected, and a good one will not take it personally.

Cost

Costs are shown on the partner platform before you commit to anything. If cost is a concern it is worth asking about reduced-fee options; many therapists keep a few lower-cost places. Community mental health centers and university training clinics are also worth asking about, and are usually cheaper.

If you are not safe

Therapy is not an emergency service. If you are in crisis you can call or text 988 to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at any hour, and if you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 911.